When I first decided to start this site, I wanted to focus on writing about my experiences as an Asian American Male and the struggles that I faced. I wanted to share the knowledge gained from experience so that future generations wouldn’t have to endure that same pain that I went through.
What exactly attracted me to the name “StrongAsian”, was that I realized a lot of the problems Asian American Males faced boiled down to masculinity and strength. The existing sites suck – mainstream media is constantly emasculating us and the other Asian content is too feminine. There was nothing out there on how to make Asian American men STRONGER and more POWERFUL – so I decided to make it myself.
American and western society in general is kind of in that weird spot in dealing with feminism and toxic masculinity. What makes it confusing for a lot of Asian American men is that we are kinda caught in the middle of all of this. Attempts to be more masculine have been put down by feminists and our elders who stress harmony. Well screw that. We got to man up on our own terms.
At the same time, my research into the core of masculinity gave me a theoretical understanding of the role of strength in the ancient, universal code of manhood. This research convinced me that strength forms the nucleus of manliness, as it truly makes all the other manly virtues possible.
That excerpt is taken from The Art of Manliness and gives a good explanation of how men in western society value strength. However, I realized that as Asian American men, we need to do thing a little differently. As Asians, we are seen as too ‘feminine’, so to compensate I am going to tell you exactly how Asian American men can be hyper-masculine. If at first we don’t get respect, we either earn it, demand it, or fight for it.
Understanding Asian vs Western Values
This site will also go in-depth on examining the differences between Asian and Western values in the context of an Asian American Male. A lot of the confusion happens from our distorted thought patterns due to cultural challenges. Our immigrant parents don’t realize how different Western Society is and in my opinion raised us the wrong way. Their standard method of interpreting the world is different and doesn’t work here in the West.
Two people witness the same event, yet come to different conclusions:
- Squeaky wheel gets the grease? or Nail that sticks out gets hammered?
- Respectfully following orders or being too subservient?
- Cowardly running away or tactical retreat?
- Being polite or being meek?
- Bravery or recklessness?
- Collectivist or individualist?
Which reaction is culturally ingrained into us and which do we choose? These are the questions I want to answer on this site.
Intuitively I realized that as an Asian American male, I had to be a pioneer and forge my own path. Are we brave enough to throw away our parent’s cultural baggage and define our identity on our own terms? I didn’t want anyone else to tell me who I was or tell me what I should be like. We are either bound to our identity as a member of of former ethnicity or can we be something entirely different? If America is a land of freedom, then I choose to be the hero of the story that gets the girl.
Current Content Sucks
If Asian Men do not make their own content, then we will forever be at the mercy of those who will. A lot of the content we see is either run by Asian women who implicitly benefit from the additional femininity that being Asian confers, gay Asian men, or guys in Hollywood. Also, I find too much content that blames the system and instead I want to focus more on the actionable items that I can take personal responsibility on. I want to read what I can do to fix my problems rather than complain about institutional racism because at the end of the day, I still have problems that I need to overcome.
What is the Future of StrongAsian?
Currently, there not a lot of support on this subject. Non Asian men don’t want more competition from Asian men who they already fear as much smarter. Women in general want to push their feminist narrative instead. Even some Asian men don’t want more competition as they are the token Asian or believe in keeping the competition weak.
I consciously have decided to fight back.
If your first reaction was to laugh and pass it off as a ‘waste of time’ or useless, that you have just played yourself. You already lost before even trying. Even if the odds are stacked against us. We will never give up! Our spirit will carry on.
I believe that as a group, we can help each other out in this world to make it a better place.Instead of building a world where we get ahead by pushing people down, I envision a world where we move forward by lifting up the people around us. By empowering people like me, I see a future of Asian American male leaders who can break stereotypes and inspire others. As a human, I believe that we have only just achieved a few percent of our human potential.